I'm so sorry Edward - for you and your wife having to go through yet another family tragedy. You've had far more than your fair share.
You had zero involvement or input into his choice to drink and he was given ample opportunity to stop, but some people
simply can't - or won't, despite knowing the danger. He probably never believed his drinking could really hurt him physically, so now you are stuck with all of the pain, sorrow and ultimate grief. I hurt for you and understand how badly you feel. Just know you
have friends in your corner willing to lend an ear when it gets too much.
Hugs,
scotty
PS: my sister-in-law's funeral services are being held tomorrow in Florida (she passed away in Richmond, Va). I've no idea
why it's taken so long - but I'm not in charge. She already had her mausoleum picked out and paid for beside my brother - her husband. We can't manage the trip so her niece in charge will try to livestream the service for the Scottish cousins who so wish they could attend but can't. At the very same time my very good friend Donna has just come through a seemingly well-known (but unknown to me) heart-valve replacement surgery called a TAVR - safely and is already back home yesterday, albeit in pain and quite restricted for a while. Thankfully she has her son to help take care of her.
We do what we must - and you're doing all that you can. You're not responsible for Matthew. Please know that.
